The Third Agreement: Make No Assumptions
Lately it seems that for every single one of my clients, no matter how diverse their backgrounds, the entire “problem” that brings them to therapy revolves around an assumption that they have made about something or someone in their lives. Some assume about what other people are feeling, thinking, or doing; and others assume about their own futures, and their own truths. Either way, assumptions are at the root of human suffering. Here's why: Assumptions are a disguise. In truth, they are fear-based beliefs and insecurities that we project to tell a story, and use to interpret the world around us. We suffer because we make something up, and then we wholeheartedly believe in it as truth. We have invented something to ultimately take personally. Once we take the false-story personally, we then send emotional poison to ourselves and the world with our words. This is where all of the first three agreements intersect, and why it's so important to be impeccable with
